Do you ever say sorry out of habit? “I’m sorry for..”
Making it into the grocery line first
Being in the med room as another nurse walks in
Filing a valid complaint
Asking for a favor
Waking up a doctor for a patient need/concern
I have a habit of apologizing for things that 1.) are not my fault 2.) unintentionally inconveniencing others, 3.) allowing others needs to be greater than my own. In other words, I say “I’m sorry” for things that those words are not even intended for. The word “sorry” stems from a word meaning sorrow or sorrowful. Do I feel sorrow for any of the above scenarios? Of course, not.
While out wedding dress shopping for my sister, my sister was constantly apologizing for bringing more dresses into the dressing room or needing a different size, etc. Finally, the sales associate said, “you need to stop saying, ‘I’m sorry’. I told myself that I need to stop saying that because I am allowed to take up space.”
I am allowed to take up space. We should never let ourselves feel less than others. Apologizing for being a customer doesn’t even make sense! Also, we have learned over the years that empathy is way more affective than sympathy which the words ‘I’m sorry” go with. So, allow yourself to take up space in this world like the billions of other humans that walk the earth.
Until next shift,
Shania